I talked to a friend of mine the other day. It was about living in these old buildings we Europeans love so much. Those kind of apartments with the plaster ceiling and the creaky parquet floors. The ones with the thin walls with no room for sensitive neighbors. Like the home me and my family live in.
I am gonna call her Carol. She is one of those neighbors who doesn‘t necessarily wants to be in anybody’s good grace, forget about being disturbed by any noise some would make by living in a home which happens to be above hers. I must say: at least she herself is as silent as a mouse – no door-slamming, yelling cow, caring for no other than herself.
You can imagine she had her share of neighborhood fights. Like the one she accidentally hammered a hole in her ceiling just to let Ms. and Mr. Whatever know they shouldn‘t shower at midnight nor slam the cupboard doors. Fortunately, she knows a very good painter and decorator. He fixed it in no time.
As we got to talk about how different I was and that I wouldn’t feel bothered as fast as she did, it got me thinking. Yes, I don‘t easily get thrown by noise. Except there is no noise within me! Do you know the feeling? These moments when you can’t handle children screaming in joy. Or happy laughter resounding in your ears? With no reason – just because?
“I Am OK – You Are OK” is a book my father handed to me when I was in my twenties. The author writes about the key to live a life in harmony through self-acceptance. A powerful tool I promise. For me reading those lines of that particular book was the beginning of a new road. It has led me to a long lasting, loving, relationship with myself. A love I have fully committed to.
What it has to do with anything? It’s about being aware of the mechanisms anyone has within themselves. The inner child, that is still afraid of feeling left out. The little one, that still isn’t heard. The girl, that is still drowning because of the chaos created by people who still aren’t listening.
Once you listen to your little girl or boy crying for help, the quieter it’s gonna get and the easier it‘s gonna be to handle other people and their doing. Whether they sneeze or talk to loud. Whether it‘s your lovely husband or else.
An insight I shared with my friend asking if in any way she related to my theory suggesting that one must calm its inner child to feel less disturbed by noisy sounds. She said, she would give it a thought, but actually never got back to me!
Next time somebody bothers you somehow challenge yourself to look closer; ask your younger self how it feels – let your thoughts and feelings show themselves. Got it? Then: Let it all go.
Works most of the times to get your peace back. Otherwise just have a nice talk with someone you love.
What it has to do with anything? It’s about being aware of the mechanisms anyone has within themselves. The inner child, that is still afraid of feeling left out. The little one, that still isn’t heard. The girl, that is still drowning because of the chaos created by people who still aren’t listening.
Once you hear that little girl or boy crying for your help, the quieter it’s gonna get and the easier it‘s gonna be to handle other people and their doing. Whether they sneeze or talk loud. Whether it‘s your lovely husband or else.
An insight I shared with my friend asking if in anyway she related to my theory suggesting that one has to calm its inner child to feel less disturbed by noisy sounds. She said, she would give it a thought, but actually never got back to me!
Next time somebody bothers you somehow challenge yourself to look closer; ask your younger self how it feels – let your thoughts and feelings show themselves. Got it? Then: Let it all go.
Works most of the times to get your peace back. Otherwise just have a nice talk with someone you love.